Community Talks

Transwomen reality in a 2021 Nigeria

By OKTimileyin

The conversation around sexuality and identity steadily seem to be gaining momentum in Nigeria, where visibility is no longer the focus of community conversations and discuss, but how to properly, and positively utilize the visibility the community has horned, to propagate more social acceptance of Queer folx in Nigeria. Haven properly learnt to harness social media platforms to raise the bar for visibility, more representation and diversity ( being basis of inclusion ) is experienced. We are now our story tellers, our very own pilots of our narratives. More voices are being raised across different forms of human existence on Queerness in Nigeria. The world witnessed the loud ones like the #Endsars Movement, the #EndHomophobiaInNigeria which seem to have shone in a very centrifugal light on the Nigeria Queer community, with its resulting community visibility being the strongest at it’s emerging identity.

With the anonymous ability of the birdie app, the Nigerian queer community has continued to grow in a beautiful, strong , and powerful way, with numeric strength driving more conversation and giving representation in conversations found safe. One of such community conversations which found it way to twitter is that from the trans community. A tweep tweeted

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The twitter thread did not just throw a lot of questions into the air and leave us to wonder if answers can be gotten, it brings to the table answers waiting to be heard, struggle wailing to be seen, stories hoping to be told, One of which is “What’s the Nigerian Transwoman Experience” ?

The Nigerian Trans Experience isn’t specifically different from the everyday trans woman who is from a space where legal protection doesn’t exist for queer people, it is the same story of constant confusion, emotional imbalance, physical and mental insecurity, body dysmorphia, paranoia and loneliness. Trans women in Nigeria are getting to learn on their own what transition should be like, forming little sisterhoods to share the pain, trauma, lessons, and laughter from existing on the street of Nigeria.

Across the world, The news of violation and killing of Transwomen are no longer new in the news, and this does not exclude Nigeria. In 2018 a website called 76 crimes published the death of a Trans activist in Abuja with the name Rabina Bamanga who was killed in her own house. By 2020, the Guardian published the story of a Trans woman who escaped death by suicide after being exposed to conversion therapy which included incisions.

In a country like Nigeria, where transphobia is an appreciated feat and TERFs won’t stop making excuses for their own transphobia. Transwomen see each day through “what it takes to see the next day” and not living as they should, walking the streets of Nigeria with high hopes of “passing”, without anyone at the bus-stop having to ask if they are a man or a woman.

This tweep in her thread lined out what it takes to survives the streets of Nigeria as a Trans Woman living in Nigeria or West Africa.

With the twitter thread having up to 10 things to keep themselves (transwomen) safe in Nigeria or West Africa, one is forced to ask how best do anyone who is queer stay safe in Nigeria ? This is the reality of underprivileged queer folx in Nigeria, who don’t have the resources to live in spaces where they can exist without exposure to harm.

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Who killed 19 years old John in Lagos ? QueerCity

Episode Summary  In the early days of July 2021, A 19 years old gay boy named John after meeting a supposed gay man online was kidnapped in Igando, Lagos. This episode of Queercity podcast seeks to understand the situations surrounding the kidnapping and death of 19 years old gay John. QueerNerd @OKTimileyin  would guide this narrative with the help of John's partner, John's Friend and another community member. John didn't deserve to die for being gay, or the horror of him bleeding to death after his parents paid 60,000 naira ransom. It's over 2 weeks since his death and burial, and we can't stop asking if his violator would ever get persecuted ? or this is just another "random gay gist".  Who killed 19 years old John in Lagos ? Credit  Executive Producer : Queercity Media and Productions @Queercitymediaandproductions Producer : Olaide Kayode Timileyin (@OKTimileyin) Voice over : TransgenderGirlfriend  Background Music:  Childlike is available on all major streaming platform @Censodd Socials Website : Instagram : @Queercitypodcast Twitter : @Queercitypod9ja — Send in a voice message: Support this podcast:
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The Nigeria Prize for Difference and Diversity announces judges and advisory board

The Nigeria prize for Difference and Diversity, endowed by the co-founder of RED | For Africa and founder of human flourishing company, Joy, Inc. Chude Jideonwo announces its judges and global advisory council as nominations for the prize continue.
Culled from diverse walks of life, the panel of judges is made up of some of the most distinctly decorated Nigerians from their individual fields. From actors Nse Ikpe-Etim and Beverly Naya, to decorated journalists Kiki Mordi, Harry Itie and CNN African Voices’ Arit Okpo. The extensive list of judges with their profiles is on ​ where one can also nominate the person they deem deserve the prize.
The mission of the prize, as stated by Chude Jideonwo, is “to open up the voices, hearts and spirits of young people across Nigeria, for them to embrace their true identities and accept their uniqueness without feeling suppressed, oppressed or misunderstood.”
Speaking about his inspiration for the prize, Chude Jideonwo said, “I like the idea of being an extremist for love and acceptance. It calls to something deep within my spirit. Because it is not homophobia or transphobia alone that breaks my heart—it’s inequality and oppression with regard to gender, to race, to religion; any part of the arena of human existence where being a minority or being different puts one automatically at risk,” he also added that, “The Nigeria Prize for Difference and Diversity, is me literally putting my money where my mouth is by endowing the prize for its first year. The prize will find and support young people across Nigeria who are creating safe spaces for and giving voice to people who are different in seven key areas: gender, sexuality, faith and spirituality, mental and emotional health, art, special needs, and human rights.”
In order to achieve its objectives, the prize category is being gently guided by the wisdom and experience of a global advisory board of respectable professionals from diverse fields. Among them is renowned pianist Cobhams Asuquo, human rights activist Olumide Makanjuola, vocal mental health professional and advocate Dr Zainab Imam, writer and artist Lisa Teasley, author and historian Noah Tsika, CEO of All On Wiebe Boer, and writer and public health expert Ike Anya, among others.
Nominations are currently being collated on ​ and will close on the 17th, August 2020.

Events Past

Bodies Around Olumo

The first of it’s kind; a queer youths’ themed open mic, in the city of Abeokuta, and in the country as a whole. The splendid event started a little bit later than scheduled, as guests seemed to arrive late due to commuting challenges (e.g. poor road network and traffic). Nevertheless, the evening started with a red carpet, registration process, body art station, resources’ materials stop and the main event of the night.

We started with a welcome address by O.K. Timileyin and was hosted by Doctor Gentle where different sorts of performances started, with act of poetry, singing, story telling, Yoruba rhythms, cultural queer troop dance and drag.

Amidst the performance was a panel themed “LGBT YOUTHS: THE FUTURE OF ACTIVISM” hosted by QueerNerd. On this panel, we had Ayobami Kehinde, Obatolu Atanda and Mx Yosola, which was a very educative panel ending in questions and answers to wrap it up. The event which was attended by +50 people, ended with a twelve basket of pastries and drinks as an after-social.

Thereafter, we all retired to our hotel, where we had our after party. We had 25 party goers that night, which was lodged in numerous rooms of the 4 stars hotel we were in. The after party helped build a bond amongst everyone and it ignited various ideas and more questions raised in relation tp to the progress of the Nigerian LGBT movement. This discussion spilled over into the dawn of the following day, but we managed to rest our heads before departure, which occurred exactly 11:00 am on 15th of December, 2019.